Many parents of adopted children with a trauma/loss history find themselves in a situation where they need extra support from a therapist.   How to find an appropriate therapist is very difficult, as it is IMPERATIVE to choose a therapist that specializes in attachment or trauma, as the approach needed for these kids is totally different.  Contacting your insurance company is not the place to start.
First find the specialized therapist  -- check out the link below.

Then check to see if those therapist accept insurance and if they do, then contact your insurance company to see if they will cover the specific therapist.

Our therapist does not take insurance.  So we pay out of pocket.  But it worth every dime.  Most therapists are NOT trained in how to approach trauma and attachment issues in adopted children.    The goal is to help our children heal, and the right therapists help us work through the healing process.  It is worth driving a distance to see the right therapist.    With therapeutic parenting we want to give our children tools to help them deal with their emotions.   As parents, it is our job to search out the experts that can teach these tools.    

For my husband and myself, we have purchased every book we find on attachment and trauma....we try to learn everything that we can.  We attend the therapy sessions with notebook in hand and lists of questions.   We take healing seriously!  It is a big deal for our children's future, not to mention that it has a huge effect on the whole family!  We also encourage our children to pursue healing and keep an atmosphere of hope in our families so our children feel like they are capable of change.

Having children with an Attachment Disorder has truly made me be a better parent.  Is it hard work?  Definitely!  But I am so much more sensitive to my children's needs and can address things at the mind, body and heart level!

Did you know that you can help your children control their emotions through tools the use their body?   Well, that is a post for another day!!

Keep focused on the mission, fellow adoptive parents!  And don't be overcome by the difficulties!

This book, written by Dr.Daniel Siegel and Dr.Tina Payne Bryson should be a required reading for all prospective adoptive parents.  It has great insight as to how the brain works and how loss and trauma affect the brain.    Many people think that when they adopt a child, that child is going to be forever grateful to them for 'saving' them.  But the truth is, many of these children come with broken hearts and brains that are not wired correctly because they did not receive the attachment they needed as a baby.  Attachment has a BIOLOGICAL affect on the brain.  Love and response from your parents actually stimulates the brain's development.   And many kids who have been adopted are reeling from the affects of not having proper love and care as an infant.  So these kids act out in ways that can be very disruptive to family life.  But there is hope!  Their brains can heal, but they need some help.  So it is so important to educate yourself on therapeutic parenting and if need be, find a good therapist that specializes in Reactive Attachment disorder.  

     This books is available in paperback and is also available in audio format.