As parents we are so powerless......when you adopt a child with mental health issues... you can end up in situations day after day where you are powerless. For example, if your child is bent on not complying....it doesn't matter how early you get him up before church, instructing him to get ready...you can still end up 4 hours later, with him refusing to get dressed...so he can get the satisfaction of making everyone late.
My kids have a name for going to church late now....the walk of shame. Everyone in the family feels the pain of the effect of mental illness. This is a pain that no one can truly understand unless they have walked the road.
The word adoption now means the word opportunity. (to me...as a seasoned adoptive mom) With adopting...I am providing a child/children opportunities:
1. To Be loved unconditionally
2. Have a Family
3. To Heal (through varies forms, like therapy, RT, etc..)
3. Get an education
4. Future career, family
But they in turn have to choose to accept the opportunities. I am not responsible for their choices. I am just responsible for providing the opportunities.
We adopt...holding on to hope, that the seeds of love that we plant in our children, will one day take root, even if it takes a super long time.
Have you heard the term --Hurt Children Hurt Others
It is so true.
Adoption also provides the opportunity for those in the family that are mentally healthy to practice unconditional love at a super deep level and to practice continual forgiveness.
Learn how to find joy in the midst of sorrow.
I, as a Trauma Momma (mother of children who have experienced trauma), get to be stretched....I have learned so much about life, and human kind from my children. I am stronger because of this journey.... I am better because of this journey.
If you are a person of prayer....please keep our family family on your prayer list. We are on the front lines ---- trying to help the broken and it is not an easy road.